Saturday, September 27, 2014

Uncle Bob

Dr. Robert Allanach, PhD
Today at the St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church in New Orleans, Louisiana. My uncle, Dr. Robert “father Bob” Allanach, PhD, was laid to rest. 

To lose a brother, an uncle, a husband, and a "father" to so many who looked to him for counsel and advice? Another grim reminder of that truth Jim Morrison sang about back in the late sixties - "No one here get's out alive." Nevertheless, we all leave behind our reputation's lasting influence and example for others to honor and celebrate. So what was my Uncle's?

Despite the emptiness that has replaced the place Robert formally inhabited physically, I know he still very much walks with us. In fact, I have been thinking a lot about him since his passing on Sept. 8th. I have been asking myself - what would Robert say in response to this statement? How would Robert act in this situation? I laughed. I chuckled. I nodded. Sure, I realized Robert may have come across as too intense, sardonic, or damn straight honest to some, but fuck 'em. Don't interesting people often come across as 'too intense'? My uncle was direct and he despised bullshit.

Thankfully my uncle Robert was a man of principle who valued social justice and practicing good deeds onto others. He followed and lived by the teachings of Jesus Christ. He worked in prisons, the church, and as a clinical psychologist. Robert defended the rights of others and stood up for those who no one else stood up for. He believed people could create and establish positive change; accordingly, he spent his life seeking to do good and did. I encourage you to read the post my father wrote about Robert's life (reposted below the break.)  

Today as Robert's family and friends gather in the city he loved so much, I recall back to the pleasant childhood memories when we all lived in Maine. I recall enjoying the smell from my uncle's pipe when he would visit. I remember his wit, humor, and loud, jovial laugh. I always respected and was proud to see people looking to my uncle and my father for advice and meaning in their lives. Sure, my uncle and father had a healthy sibling rivalry. Although they didn't always see eye-to-eye, or agree on everything (and who ever does?), they managed to always get along and find deeper purpose and truth in life through constructive dialogue and debate. Despite their differences, I always respected the similarities they shared. I will miss these memories, but I will remember them so they're not forgotten.

Finally, I'm also happy to know my uncle found love in his life, our heart goes out to his husband, Keegan Allanach, during this difficult time of mourning. I was also glad to have been able to talk to my uncle, even if only over the phone, before he passed from this life. As usual, Uncle Robert was honest and unabashedly direct about his situation, and was more interested in hearing about my life than kvetching about his own lot. Now, we can only allow his lasting influence to advise us.

With love, light and peace Uncle Bob. Peace out.

DR. ROBERT C. ALLANACH, PhD (9-25-1949 - 9/8/2014)
By Ronald Allanach, PhD

SLIDELL, LA ---- Dr. Robert C. Allanach, 64, of Slidell Louisiana, a fierce lion for the rights of disenfranchised children and their rights from Greater Portland, Maine, to Oklaholma, Honolulu and New Orleans died Monday, Sept 8, 2014, at Slidell Memorial Hospital, where he struggled for two weeks with plasia white blood cell thymona, a rare and incurable illness.

Robert was born in Lewiston, Maine, September 25, 1949, spending his youth in South Portland, Maine, graduating from South Portland High School, Class of 1968.

Robert was founder of the Little Brothers Association of Portland, Maine, on May 18, 1972, an agency still existing for over 42 years today helping struggling children. The start was Huckleberry House, Eastern Prom.

Robert, a former member of the Missionary Oblates of Mary Immaculate (OMI) for over 35 years, served with the US Department of Justice, Bureau of Prisons in Oklahoma and CT. While in Oklahoma at risk of losing his job and despite threats, Robert took on the US Govt which was manipulating to close the schools for poor Native American children. The schools remained open.

Robert later went on to become the Director of Boys Hope/Girls Hope of New Orleans for several years, also serving the parish of St. Joan De Arch in New Orleans. Robert loved New Orleans and especially had great joy showing out of town guests "his" city.

For over a two decades, Robert served the New Orleans Police Commissioner in the capacity of Police Chaplain responding to many desperate calls by officers who needed help for the mentally ill. Later, Robert sadly left the Oblates, feeling the Church was "too confining." Robert worked later as State Mental Health Director of Louisiana, LSU Health Medical Sciences Center, New Orleans, CEO, Youth Bureau of St Tammy and Washington Parishes.

Robert's two most wonderful times that brought him great happiness were when he purchased his home in Slidell where he enjoyed working in the gardens of his beautiful home, sitting and listening to the birds. The other was his marriage to Keegan B. Allanach, in Hawaii a year ago. Robert was finally at home and meeting his Love that brought him so much joy to his last days.

Robert during the last few years of his life realized his dream of opening his own private practice in Slidell, LA providing therapy to individuals, couples and families. Beyond his private practice, Dr. Allanach was also an active consultancy with Medical Management Options, providing behavioral health care services to MMO's IOP and PHP programs in Louisiana and Mississippi.

Dr. Allanach held an undergraduate degree in Justice Management and Theology from Chaminade University of Honolulu; a M.Div. degree from Boston College; a MA degree in counseling from Emmanuel College in Boston; a doctorate in clinical studies and psychology from Andover Newton, Newton Centre, MA.

Dr. Allanach completed his clinical internship at Massachusetts General Hospital's Charlestown Mental Health Unit. He completed his residency training at the Elan School in Poland, Maine under the clinical supervision of the late Dr. Gerald Davidson, MD, who served on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. Dr. Allanach also received training at Our Lady of Holy Cross College, New Orleans in clinical supervision.

He was certified Fellow of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, Life Fellow of the American Orthopsychiatric Association, Fellow and Diplomate of the American Board of Medical Psychotherapists, Diplomate of the American Psychotherapy Association, Clinical Member American Psychological Association, Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, Clinical Member American Group Psychotherapy Association, and Board Certified Group Psychotherapist with the National Registry of Board Certified Group Psychotherapists.

Dr. Allanach published articles on juvenile delinquency risk factors, mental health issues, and clinical supervision. He also authored "This Hurting Place".
Above all else, he was a friend and supporter to all.

Robert is predeceased by his father, Harry Allanach and mother, Christine Norris Allanach, and is survived by his spouse, Keegan B. Allanach, twin brother, Dr. Ron Allanach, , and his spouse, Ben Lorgeranon,of New Westminster, British Columbia, a sister, Denise Tibbetts and her husband Dennis of Cumberland, Maine, brother, Thomas Allanach Sr., and his wife Mary-Ann of Nashua, NH, nieces Laurie Tibbetts of New Orleans, and Jessica Tibbetts of Los Angeles, nephews, Nicholas Allanach, spouse, Ena Hashimoto, New York City, and Nathan Allanach and partner Misty of Harriman, NY, Thomas Allanach Jr., Tolland Ct., Mary, Nashua NH, Mark Allanach, Santa Ana, CA, adopted sons, Dr. Murat Gemici., MD, Denver, and Robert E. Cooper and spouse Geraldine Cooper and one granddaughter, Solynn Cooper of Slidell, LA.

Celebratory service and prayers will be Sept 27, 2014, at St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church, New Orleans, LA. At Robert's wish, In support of life, the body was donated to advance medicine through Science Care, a whole body donor program.